Tips for Endings and Beginnings
Here are four things to keep in mind when dealing with change.
The summer before my senior year of high school, my family moved from northern Virginia, USA, near Washington, D.C., to a small town in California. This was not an easy transition. I was looking forward to finishing high school with my friends. At 17 years old, I felt like my life was over!
It took a while for me to accept that life is full of endings and beginnings—both exciting and sometimes scary. Whether you’re moving to a new place, starting high school, beginning a job, going on a mission, or facing any other major life event, you can make it through even when everything familiar seems gone for good.
Be Spiritually Anchored
Change is a part of life, but some things never change—no matter what. These are things we should always hold on to. President M. Russell Ballard (1928–2023) referred to these as anchors for our lives.
“If an anchor is placed properly on the bottom of the sea,” President Ballard said, “it can hold a giant ship fast, even in rough seas.” He taught, “Just as ships need anchors to keep them from drifting away, … people need spiritual anchors in their lives if they are to remain steadfast.”
Let your relationship with Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ be your most secure spiritual anchor. Their love for you is constant. You can turn to Them through daily prayer, scripture study, service to others, and attending church—even if it’s in a new ward or branch. Staying close to Them will help you feel grounded regardless of what comes your way.
Learn to Adjust
You can either have a bad attitude about life’s transitions or make the most of your new situation. This will help you throughout your life. Here are some tools to help:
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Keep a journal: Writing down your thoughts is a great way to work through problems and emotions. Journaling can also help you recognize and be grateful for God’s hand in your life.
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Get moving: Physical activity can boost your mood and clear your mind. Even a short walk can do a lot of good. You can get outside in the beauty of God’s creations. This can help you see things from a more positive perspective.
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Be creative: Inspiring music and art can help you express yourself. Wholesome creative outlets like these can help keep your mind and heart open to spiritual promptings and new experiences.
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Talk to someone: You don’t have to go through transitions alone. A parent, Church leader, or trusted friend can help. Opening up can be hard, but sharing how you feel will definitely help—so reach out! And remember, prayer is always available.
Put Yourself Out There
Life transitions can also provide new opportunities—so put yourself out there! Join a club, participate in seminary, volunteer, or try a new sport. Taking wise chances builds confidence and helps you discover what you’re capable of.
Meeting new people can be hard. If you’ll step out of your comfort zone, you can learn to communicate better and be more comfortable in new situations. As you look for new friends, remember to be the kind of friend you’re looking for. Reaching out to others with kindness can lead to meaningful connections.
Don’t Give Up
My senior year wasn’t easy. I felt lonely a lot. But during that time, I learned the importance of finding good friends who support me and respect my beliefs. That has been helpful to me ever since.
Change and transitions often help us progress, which is an important part of Heavenly Father’s plan. Even when things don’t go exactly the way you hope, Heavenly Father can take your experiences—especially the hard ones—and stretch you and teach you so you can experience growth, strength, and deeper faith to prepare you for incredible things He has in store for you.
And remember, you’re not alone. The Savior understands every transition, every ending, and every beginning. When you walk with Him, your best days are always ahead.